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Entdecke den Wert von freiwilligem Wachstum 📈
I continue with our report
in which I have a short biography
publish about a 6 year training.
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I hope it inspires and encourages you to "Step Out".
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I wish you variety, health, feeling and
100% Happiness - Not 1% Less!
Look outside the box.
Not only was I lucky enough to achieve awareness, freedom and independence, I was also able to learn to deal with depths and to develop my full potential.
I'm Mira, an emotional person with deep feelings, an interested and curious creative person, a rational and organized doer at the same time.
Thanks to these abilities, I already had an intuitive approach as a child, which was also able to connect difficult emotional connections incredibly quickly and to think comprehensively.
I was involved in peace projects from an early age, participated in aid packages from third countries, donated pocket money for animal rescues or trained as a mediator. An activist through and through, even if she prefers to stay in the background.
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I was allowed to grow up with my parents and little sister in a special spirit of different people and cultures.
So I did gymnastics on training equipment, listened to the music at workshops, drummed on stacking cups with African dancers and philosophized at the breakfast table with artists from all over the world. Treasure hunts on birthdays in your own studio, sauna and relaxation on family weekends and holidays on Dutch beaches. At the same time, I devoted myself to child sitting or played with the "neighbor boys" in our customer parking lot.
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When my parents had to give up the studio, it was a huge blow to my family.
Due to my openness, however, I never had problems making adjustments and thus found support in the circles of friends with whom I spent a great youth.
All people could rely on my honesty, open ear and great willingness to help. I was always the optimistic Patschi, the one on every corner
support and stood up for his heart people.
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Despite a social streak and a few considerations, I decided to go commercial. My earnings should enable me to move out and visit some countries around the world.
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In addition to owning my own apartment and "growing up", I finally visited a few countries thanks to savings.
On the trips I met these "different thinking" people who reminded me of my childhood through their open mindset, their culture or their great modesty.
Last but not least, on a camper trip in New Zealand, an incredible energy flowed through me. She then made me reflect on life in peace.
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In the same year, my partner and I wanted to get married, just for the two of us, very relaxed. We did that before we got pregnant.
While he was on assembly work, I continued to look after our bitch responsibly, managed everything around it and kept our home in order.
Further reflections followed during our pregnancy and "this energy" shouldn't leave me at all?! I perceived everything around it intensively again. My senses were sharpened and the observer from my childhood was reactivated.
Society in our rural and prosperous small town, by comparison, seemed rather superficial, stuffy and incredibly narrow-minded. The general problems of the world had also become progressively worse over the years.
"Oh, that's just because of the pregnancy hormones Mira.."
But why do people keep clinging to gossip? Why is everyone just sitting in front of their cell phones and have these media platforms? Why is there less and less face-to-face communication? Why do people "age" so quickly and whine all the time? Why are so many couples now having children who are actually aiming for a career? Why do we always talk about the same thing and only do the same thing? Why is everything "new" immediately devalued? Why does it always have to be a bigger house? Why is hardly anyone happy for someone else here?!"
Shit, after the pregnancy these subliminal thoughts were still there. Now I was also allowed to watch how children were pressed into patterns! An unbearable feeling for a mother who is now growing up herself.
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"How could I have closed my eyes for so long?
Why is there less and less room in the world for feelings, spirit, freedom and deep conversations? And why have I even become "stiff" in some respects?"
Then came the day that was to change everything:
Through a mindset talk with a friend, a lecture by a personality development organization was recommended to me (thanks R.), in which prevention, development and mindset, but also exactly these attitudes, were spoken of.
Unbelievable - "These trainers" spoke directly from my soul and kindled my fire for psychological topics, which I was incredibly interested in as a child.
Answer to "Why" and the question of "The meaning of life".
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So my thoughts weren't wrong and I wasn't alone out there.
These explanations finally shed some light. So, after comparing it with my gut feeling, I decided, initially just for myself as a hobby, to deal more intensively with topics of personality growth. "With such an organization, you don't even need to come to most people, they probably think I've joined a sect."
Well, fortunately I soon had 3 years of parental leave, during which I could retire comfortably. Yes, a little mysterious loner as always.
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I was absolutely hooked on unleashing my full potential and exploring new ways of thinking more deeply. "I want to fathom everything these people say about themselves!"
The nerd in me was awakened again.
Reference books, videos and documentaries, own notes, experimental exercises, more & more.
I wanted to know for sure now and really enjoyed exploring these deep themes.
Then at some point you think you've eaten wisdom with spoons, until suddenly you have to take a deeper look at your own life: Could my own system adjustments have brought me to a standstill? What's behind it all? What can I do to live this life to the fullest now? What is it that calls for development?
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My way should change.
On the floor my comfort zone and its 3 sections to overcome. Wow, what kind of journey should I embark on here?
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It confirmed the social model
Idea of "happiness", unfortunately really as an illusion. "What kind of nonsense are we feeding ourselves here? How limited do we often walk through the world?"
Even if societies brought me a lot of experiences in being together, real respect, reliability, free world views, spirit and daily happiness did not fit the standard of living at all.
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Now there was no turning back..
What kind of coward would I be, how much would I have to lie to myself? How ungrateful I would be if I continued to ignore all of this.
After failed attempts at contagion and some final rescue efforts, I got divorced, even with a heavy heart.
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I had to start all over again and thought to myself: "If then, before our little angel grows up, her consciousness is broader and her father and I might not have anything more to say to each other."
There it was again, the preventive look.
According to the calculation, I would have 5 years left until our little one reaches the "difficult phase" in terms of development. Until then, it was now: focus, let our daughter know about these topics in a child-friendly way and keep moving.
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Selling a house, women's experiences
(I know the outing would also have some exciting anecdotes, but it wasn'ttheReason for separation, this was still directly connected to my training project and will therefore not be discussed further in this context, perdón), moving to a temporary new nest and starting as a single motherma, followed.
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Yes. Steps out of the comfort zone are not terrain full of great experiences, you have to climb a real mountain, you are vulnerable and can therefore quickly encounter rather unpleasant encounters that can throw you back incredibly if you are not sufficiently aware and set limits beforehand has set apart!
Fortunately, through my new hobby "personality development", I continued to acquire all the skills, determined never to give up, to mentally stand still somewhere or to give up. My inner focus was finally set. Lucky.
Through an additional job as a childminder in the daycare center in a "rehab and health support point" during my parental leave, I was able to be my own mom,observe some points that have already been worked out in sociology, pedagogy and developmental psychology with the little ones and then later compare them with the big ones.
I was also able to make great connections with my dog, for example to "Pawlow's conditioning".
Animals and children - Ever since I was a teenager, I loved being together. They show us what really matters in life!
During the time, new learning tasks flew in from all sides. At some point I even thought up suitable exercises myself in order to find "my beginning" and "my end". I figured:
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"If you want to reach your full potential, you should use all personality types equally and learn how to use them optimally instead of getting stuck in one type?!
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The Big 5 Types of Psychology:
extraversion (sociable)
Neuroticism (emotional, vulnerable)
openness (inventive, curious)
Agreeableness (cooperative, friendly)
Conscientiousness (perfectionism)
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Or according to the DISG® model:
Dominant
initiative
steady
Conscientious."
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As Astrid Lindgren said: "Be cheeky, wild and wonderful" and so I just let my creativity run wild in this area as well.
Train the insecurity and weaknesses of the other types and get to the bottom of "modern times" (e.g. media channels or the medium cell phone) in more detail.
Broaden your horizons and give yourself a spiritual growth spurt.
Check thought patterns and perceptions, maintain them in the corona pandemic.
And to connect with the free "inner child".
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Yes, this path has called for some really crazy measures.
The little loner in me diligently wrote a whole folder full of analyzes and notes, not only to get to know my own toolbox in detail, but also to link it with documented psychological facts and to check statements curiously.
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I trusted the statements of those who had already taken these steps. No superficial "blah" on the streets or dull learn by heart, no, do it yourself and above all experience it was the motto here.
For 6 years I oscillated between "simply doing - feeling - thinking" and found myself on the stages of trying things out (see above).
Own FErrors, being overwhelmed, doubts, chaos of thoughts, sadness or exhaustion were all new visitorswho want to return to as soon as possiblegoodbyen was valid.(A notice:Reallye Personal development always goes through a deep Perzess, in which I advise courageous followers,in a solo attempt the point Salutogenesis in advance.)
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Disagreements with other people or general misunderstandings led to conflict situations.
Of course, experiences of discrimination through the coming out also knockedstillto the door.
So Should reactions to personality growth that have already been announced in advance actually affect me?!
Individuality, freedom of speech, disclosure, change, strength, determination, will and awareness awaken in some people psychic defense mechanisms and reactance behavior.
(With positivity, enthusiasm or openness, one really comesunable to continue. You are now "Different" = You become intangible, you become a "threat".)
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But now I had to learn to eliminate justifications from the vocabulary, stop sacrifices, keep the focus, learn attitude and actively use my own voice again when crossing moral boundaries(Stingword civil courageand Character).
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Yes, the little inner monsters named:
Fear, ego and envy.
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You and your multitude of reactions(Missfavor,Shame,Blasphemy, Iignorance etc.), like to become permanent visitors of mankind.
The human psyche not only automatically searches for distraction from the outside, but uses these reactions to protect itself if you don't actively and regularly counteract it yourself.
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So my coherence was really challenged.
"That would be way too energy draining for me Mira" "Do you honestly think they manage to embrace change?" "Do you really want to be judged by people who haven't even internalized freedom and growth for themselves?"
But to my peaceful mommy life and my loyal heart people, my own feelings later led me to let the following thoughts mature into a much larger learning process:
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"Knowing that such behavior is a documented reaction, how could I blame it or take it personally? And what if I couldn't even support other people with personal development? Aren't we all incredibly locked into systems and this wouldn't be an opportunity to show that only a closed scale of change and perseverance leads to the goal? Don't we humans all have our own stuff, imprints and are connected to each other through our emotions?
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The human being. A species of the genus Homo from the family of the great apes, which is the only creature on our beautiful earth that has the ability to recognize causal connections and act according to ethical and moral principles, but often at itdriving force and ignorance aroundthat ability is lacking."
So I decided to have a word with my own ego monster and turn sadness, despair & anger = into power, humility and acceptance.
Yes, one of the biggest challenges, where the sympathetic was really used.
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When I understood this, too, I decided to use my energy better. It should either support people who have a real will to change orI at least have true respect and appreciationget back equivalent. Regardless of the fact that my heart would continue to beat for the whole world because my personal attitude could never allow it otherwise.
Letting go would be the last big step in personal growth.
So I was suddenly at the top of my goal and all my ideas became reality.
Lightness, love and happiness flowed through me.
Yes, and if one thing is "really certain" in the world, it's that faith, creativity and humor are strong companions and gratitude can actually be felt all over the body.
That everything comes as it has to and that you can trust in the universal, that later everything will fit together like a piece of a jigsaw puzzle.
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I decided to continue to make personal development a part of my life. Forever.
And if someone came again "Mira did you swallow a Buddha?" "How do you manage all this?" or "Which Happy pills are you taking?!" I like to smile to myself: "If they only knew ..........."
(Notice:That doesn't mean that after such a training one has become a perfect, flawless person!!!
Of course, what has been trained must be refreshed at any time and we humans will never stop learning.)
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Still, you become quite a resilient person and if you do it right, even without losing your feeling and openness. I had now learned to set limits.
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Yes, I really can't be pigeonholed anymore. I am a free individual with a voice. I'm Anders and I'm incredibly happy about it.
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"Mira, what a little eco you've become." Yes. In the meantime, work, meeting heart people and being a mom also include regular wellness visits(Regularly? Yes, thedad usOur daughter finally has a home office job and takes over the treasurerze like thatevenregularly. This construction site could also be solved.#trusttheuniverse), cureztrips to the sea, Mediction or books read before prsmoldering firehe. I'd even rather put on an old-school record for breakfast than let the annoying radio news spoil my appetite.
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From time to time, I might also dive into a discothek to feel the bass of my childhood in my ears, to close my eyes and to sail into another world with the sound.(And if it's no longer my heart people who can't because of family time, then I'll just go alone and meet new peoplehen, nothing is stopping me now #independence #yolo)
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I clear myself aktiv time according to my ideas and needs, because I iIn the meantime I also know exactly how it can be implemented even in a "stressful everyday family life" and even as a single parent. Nothing and no one stands in the way of me and my happiness. I live.
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Finally, to go into the role model function for your own children in such a "training":
How are we supposed to empower the heroes of the world, teach openness, and teach peace when we ourselves are giving up, running away, or staying in the bubble? Possibly forgotten how important values, emotions and feelings are?
In my role as a mother, I had to lead "a little double life" at times. It was my own way, not the way of a "mother role".
This organizational trio between "Mama role - player in their own training - and just me" later gave me the idea of designing a special time management plan that is now also suitable for other models.(You should now in your organizationsphobia roll your eyes, of course spontaneity also has its place.)
As a fan of children and animals, I could never have lost sight of my role as a mom and dog owner.
But I was able to find out that with certain additional obligations such as work, home, one's own needs and the people of the heart, it is most effective to train processes into the subconscious according to a special scheme.
Organization. That makes sense. For you maybe?!
But of course there are always those who want to know better.
So let's go
Singles who like to just live their day,
people who schon Overwhelmed are taking responsibility only for themselves,
Parents who don't necessarily see children as an enrichment in their lives, those who have already had their lives laid on a silver platteror
those who believe one can live solely on air and love:
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Asloving motherand dog owner you have an everyday life with enormous responsibility andshouldeven take a closer look at your everyday life if you want to lay a foundation in the following points:
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- Prepare the child adequately for his excursion
- Convey security, emotions, love and cohesion
- Keep enjoying the now with joy
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Challenging? Yes.
And of course, as a single parent, you also reach your limits:
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If you walk the dog 3 times a day, scrape your daughter's vomited spaghetti out of the crack in the bed at 3 a.m. When you rush yourself in the morning to be fit again at work at 8 am sharp. When you can't just go out whenever you want. If the father is still on Mondays, your next free weekend dog and child free is not foreseeable. When the foliage in the garden is starting to resemble Mount Everest, but has to stay put for a week. If your parents or your loved ones want to call in an emergency, but they are stuck in their everyday lives. If you can't just say: "Darling, can you please help me?" "Darling, are you staying with the dog?" "Darling, could you just bring this and that with you?"
When you hug yourself exhausted in the evening and HAVE to find solutions. When you HAVE to learn to deal with all your everyday tasks, the concerns and worries of your 2 treasures, including your own.
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If you want the last thought "I CAN'T DO THIS" to get out of your head in a normal everyday family life, then other solutions MUST be taken, apart from taking a deep, relaxed breath.
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I know some colleagues from the psychology genre are now grinning: "Miraaa, must-thinking - inner drivers" and also some high scholars in the mountains of the Himalayas are shaking their heads with a smile because of their theories.
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Nevertheless, I would like to mention in this context that "no must" would have contained negative characteristics in this case and that these have a much greater consequence than just sitting on the seat of your pants as a mom and constantly thinking about solutions.
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So how did I sit on the seat of my pants?
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Oh well:
Complaining about being a mom was out of the question for me, after all I made my own decisions and I love a domestic family life!
Feeling sorry is far too uncomfortable a feeling and doesn't matchthe values I wanted to instill in my daughter.
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Well and give up? I think you should know my answer by now. Even if it always looks soooo beautiful easy with others,it would have been too easy for me. So stayjustagain just perseverance.
Stupid, but it also proves itself over and over again.
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So I'll pick out a few points now, iWell, after such experiences you now know exactly how to get along on your own AND what real team building really means.
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You have found the unbelievable treasure of knowledge: "I CAN EVERYTHING IF I WANT" and don't like to waste your nerves on trivial things.
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Finally, I summarize:
We don't live "on an island" with our loved ones(even if theresometimeshide treasures)or an idyllic mountain range devoid of charm and influence.
But we can turn our own four walls into an absolute place of feeling and relaxation if we organize ourselves and use the resources appropriately. And believe me, breathing works even deeper.
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Even a fat house, other consumer goods become worthless. It is the time that is valued and the enjoyment of the little things that brings joy.
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And don't even our children set an example for us?
My best "appointment" in "my plan" therefore remains with our child: fooling around, living, laughing, going for walks, researching, being creative and imaginative, singing, dancing and being "Pippi Lotta crazy". -Tag" really exaggerate.
(I still don't understand to this dayen how 3 years of parenting should be enough, or parents sincerely think they need their work as compensation.Sorry, I will not muster any understanding for.)
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As a single parent, however, please do not put yourself under pressure during such training. I know how strong a loving mother's perfectionism gets in the waycan stand.
As a team of parents: If one person has managed to do it all alone, then you'll really be able to do it together, right?
After all, are 2 helping hands more?!- Teamwork and organization!
Here we go.
What I was also allowed to take away was that the patience and
After eventful days, the power battery is not simply open, but
we have a much greater inner strength.
It's like the birth of the little heroes,
it always counts: imagination, willpower and love!
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So: Make time, set priorities, manage your own roles, gain independence, arrive in the "here and now" and keep your heart in the right place.
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And to speed up your implementation, supporters like me are there.
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I could go into more detail on all points, but I'm not an author and therefore end this short biography with a final sentence: "Every morning we can actively decide not just to lead an average life, but to live an absolutely fulfilling one."
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We just have to remind ourselves of that regularly.